Selfish and Selfless

There are times in life, its okay to be selfish first. Let me put it this way...

When you're in an airplane, before take off the flight attendant always says...

" In an event of an emergency, an oxygen mask will automatically appear in front of you. If you are travelling with a child or someone who requires your assistance, secure your mask FIRST and then assist the other person "

So you see, Life is like this...

Before you go and try to help somebody else, you gotta go first and help yourself. You gotta secure yourself. Some people may consider it to be selfish, but if you having troubles like panting or hyperventilating in life and you go help somebody else with that condition? That looks suicidal doesn't it? I don't care how good your intentions, chances are. You both will not gonna make it. So you see, there's a reason as to why they said secure your mask first before helping somebody else. That's how important it is, to keep yourself stable. After that you can help the child, the old lady, the old man, the guy next to you and so on.

So you see what am I trying to convey here? In life, to be the most help to others, you gotta take the time to secure your own masks first! To secure yourself financially, mentally, physically, and most importantly spiritually. That means you gotta leave your friends, family, the TV, turn of the games and focus on yourself. Make it your first priority! Which is why you see, in operation rooms, aint no visitors allowed, no guest, no friends, no family.

Why you might ask?

Its because the patient is undergoing a transformation.

Well in that same way, you must get by yourself, if you want to transform into your best version.

Let me finish it with this.

If you have your mask properly secured and you are able to breathe. It becomes your DUTY, your OBLIGATION to help others, secure their masks first. So to simply put it, there is nothing wrong to being selfish in the beginning but make sure the end game is to be selfless. Why? Because in a plane, to be the only one breathing in it while everybody is unconscious, will surely put you in a crash course where there's only loneliness, despair and disaster.

Anyhow when talking about planes, let us all took a little of our time to send prayers to those who were unfortunate in the MH370 and MH17 plane crashes. It has been 4 long years since the incident.

Penyakit kronik aku!?

I came to realise that I have been suffering this 1 disease after all this years but I just didn't know the right term for it. It has been awhile and to be honest, it kinda affects me in everyday basis since its basically involves relationships with people. I don't really know what is the correct term for it until my friend texted me..

Yeah altruism! O_O

Okay first of all, you guys must be wondering what does this " altruism " means right? Well, I try to make it as simple as possible. Altruism is the belief in or practice of disinterested and selfless concern for the well-being of others. In other words, selflessness. Kinda like over caring for somebody of some sort but its not it.

Hahaha, I know I know. Sorry about the title, yeah its misleading, same goes for others misleading links title out there haha, okay2 its soo unlike me huh? Hahaha, Gurau doh sorry2 hehe.

Most people sees it as a good thing but to me its a little bit different. Different as in bad or good you might say? Its bad. Well kinda.

I probably would say its bad because sometimes I put others way ahead of myself instead of my own resulting in me being easily used and stepped on. Several times it has been this way for me actually, where I am being too generous, too kind, too soft, too laid back on doing important stuffs, too bertolak ansur for somebody without thinking of my own responsibilities. I guess this is the bad side of altruism where literally if you met the wrong people, they could take advantage of your kindness. Its between the good and the bad crowd. I ought to remind myself to always be careful when choosing your friends.

Come to think of it, I have been like this since I was around 18 where I began joining this NGO organisation in my diploma days where we conduct visits elderly home, do some random charity, raised some funds, conducting activites held by the organisation and those petty stuffs you see. Now, Im working soo I kinda missed those times. Theres hardly any free daytime for me ever since and I don't even know any NGO here to join.

Altruism, hmmmm. I don't really know how to explain it further, but to me when I see people express their words of gratitude or even smile because of something that I do. I got this an urge of satisfaction and that alone literally would made my day better. Its not an act to be likeable by the society nor do I making a name of myself by doing as such. Its just a simple good deed. Who knows? Maybe this type of stuffs that I do would instils good behaviours to today's society kan. Would that be awesome? Hehe, its all about spreading love anyway ^_^

Mother's Day

If you look at the lives of the greatest men who ever lived, you will find that they owe their greatness, primarily to the care and nurture of their mother, especially in their formative years. Soo, its easy to conclude that behind every successful person around the world, there will always a person responsible for that. And that person is someone we called " Mother " or in my case its " Ibu ". If we serve them, they will bless us. There is no blessing like that of the mother. Even prophet Muhammad (PBUH) once said,

" Do good and serve your mother, then your mother, then your mother, and then your father. "

MOTHER was repeated and emphasized 3 times. Its really shows how important to respect, cherish and value your mother much much more than your father, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't disrespect your father. The reason was simply, because we owe them a duty for their labour and pain for bringing us into the world. Without them, we could not have been here in the 1st place. Not to mention, the countless times of comforting us when we fall, cry, hurt, and soo much more.

Without Ibu, I wouldn't even be here writing this post and I know this post was long since overdue but better late than never right? Hehe. While everyone on my social media sites are showing off their appreciation post with gift and such for their respective mothers, I'm only here capable of just give her a simple wish instead, but I do intend to make it special and soo I did this! ^_^

And some family selfie collages along the way.

Seriously, there should be a photo frame of this, so that I could put it on my room. Hahaha

It isn't much but, you truly had no idea of how hard it is to get those personal selfies from my 3 others siblings. Considering us, guys dont really selfie that much ( especially Ayah and my big bro) and to get even a single picture with a good smile on the face is actually really hard. They don't even have social media accounts and hardly share any photo of themselves makes it harder. Anyhow, I'm kinda glad that I got a good 1 from each of them and its good to see they are cooperating with me ( walaupun kena paksa kan, hahaha ). The most interesting would probably, Zarif (youngest) had to use selfie stick for him since his hands are too small to press the button. Hahaha, getting him to smile was actually priceless. 

Oh well, the saddest part for me would probably me, not able of returning home since there's like tonnes of work on my place and there are not a single holiday whatsoever throughout the week Its really hectic and to be honest, we went over 15 hours of work time/ a day. O_O The workloads are piling up and some of us started to develop panda eyes because lack of sleep. But you know what they said " Bersusah-susah dahulu, bersenang-senang kemudian " ^_^ im pretty much sure my salary this month would be triple the amount rather than the usual. Hahaha. But anyhow, health do comes first and I never once forget about that. :) Lets pray so that I could survive these month with ease. Hehe.

And of course, to all going-to-be mothers and mothers of all ages....