A Generation That Doesn't Want Relationship

We are in a generation that doesn't want relationship

We want a second pair of shoes in the artsy pictures we take of our feet

We want that Facebook official relationship that everyone can like and comment on.

We want the post that wins relationship goals.

We want that Taco Tuesday partner, someone to text us " Good Morning " on a Wednesday.

We want lots of likes for all the weddings we keep getting invited to.

How did they do it? 

How did they find their happily ever after? 

We all wanted this! But truthful we never committed to it

We are the generation that doesn't want a relationship.

We swipe left in hopes of finding the right one.

We read "5 Ways to Know He's Into You" and "7 Ways She Will Fall for You" thinking we can upcycle a person into a relationship like a Pinterest project.

We invest more time into our Twitter and Wechat profiles than we do with our personalities, yet we're the one who don't want a relationship.

We talk and we text, we what-sapp and we slept, we hangout and we happy hour, we go to starbucks and grab a coffee, anything to avoid an actual date.

We private message to meet up and small talk for an hour, only to return home and then small talk via text

We forgo any chance of achieving real connection by mutually playing games with no winner.

The only thing we end-up winning is most likely to be alone.

We want the facade of a relationship without work of a relationship

We want that hand holding without the eye contact

We want the teasing without the serious conversation

We want the pretty promise without the actual commitment

We want to celebrate the anniversaries without the 365 days that lead up to them

We want the happily ever after without the effort in the here and now,

We want to have deep connections but still keep things shallow,

We want that World Series kind of love without willing to go to bat

We want someone to hold our hands, but we don't want to put the power to hurt us in their hands

We want to be swept off our feet but at the same time remaining safely, independently standing on our own.

We want to keep chasing love, but we don't want to fall into it.

We don't want relationships, we want friends with benefits

We want everything that will give us the illusion of a relationship without an actual relationship

We want the rewards with no risk

We want the payout with no cost

We want to connect enough but not too much

We want to commit a little but not a lot.

We take it slow, we see where it goes,

We dont want to label things, we just go with the flow

We keep one foot out of the door, we keep one eye open

We keep people at arms length, toying with their emotions but mostly toying with our own

When things get too close to being real we run, we hide, we leave, we say to ourselves "there's more fish in the sea" 

We want the downloadable person that's a perfect fit, just like an app you can update whenever there's a hitch, compartmentalized into a folder that we can delete when we have no need for it.

We don't want to unpack our baggage or worse help someone else unpack theirs

We hide everything behind an Instagram filter, we chose a Netflix show over a real conversation,

We feel entitled to love like we feel entitled to full-time jobs out of college

We want a placeholder not a person, we want a warm body not a partner

We want someone to eat with while we scroll through our news-feed

You see, what we need to recognize, is that the things we truly want, the things that are deeply meaningful, the things that are genuinely fulfilling, all require patience. They all require work. They all require energy. See? The challenge is, we all want to be with someone who makes us happy when what we need to do is to be someone who makes us happy

We sit with out friends discussing the rules but no one even knows what game we're trying to play because the problem with our generation not wanting relationships is that, at the end of the day, we actually do.